docs(pairing): add user-friendly pairing documentation

docs/chat-commands.md

@@ -15,8 +15,25 @@ These commands work inside chat channels and interactive agent sessions:
 | `/dream-log <sha>` | Show a specific Dream memory change |
 | `/dream-restore` | List recent Dream memory versions |
 | `/dream-restore <sha>` | Restore memory to the state before a specific change |
+| `/pairing` | List pending pairing requests |
+| `/pairing approve <code>` | Approve a pairing code |
+| `/pairing deny <code>` | Deny a pending pairing request |
+| `/pairing revoke <user_id>` | Revoke a previously approved user on the current channel |
+| `/pairing revoke <channel> <user_id>` | Revoke a previously approved user on a specific channel |
 | `/help` | Show available in-chat commands |
 
+## Pairing
+
+When someone sends a DM to the bot and isn't on the allowlist — whether it's a new user or an existing user on a new channel — nanobot automatically replies with a **pairing code** (like `ABCD-EFGH`) that expires in 10 minutes. To grant them access:
+
+```text
+/pairing approve ABCD-EFGH
+```
+
+To see who's waiting, use `/pairing`. To remove someone later, use `/pairing revoke <user_id>` — you can find user IDs in the `/pairing list` output.
+
+See [Configuration: Pairing](./configuration.md#pairing) for the full setup guide.
+
 ## Model Presets
 
 Use `/model` to inspect the current runtime model:

docs/configuration.md

@@ -1117,6 +1117,71 @@ MCP tools are automatically discovered and registered on startup. The LLM can us
 **Docker security**: The official Docker image runs as a non-root user (`nanobot`, UID 1000) with bubblewrap pre-installed. When using `docker-compose.yml`, the container drops all Linux capabilities except `SYS_ADMIN` (required for bwrap's namespace isolation).
 
 
+## Pairing
+
+Pairing lets users get access to the bot through a simple code exchange — no config editing required. This works for both new users and existing users connecting from a new channel (e.g. someone already approved on Telegram now setting up Discord).
+
+### How it works
+
+1. A user sends a DM to the bot on any channel (Telegram, Discord, Slack, etc.) where they aren't yet approved.
+2. The bot replies with a pairing code (like `ABCD-EFGH`) and tells them to forward it to you.
+3. You approve the code:
+
+```text
+/pairing approve ABCD-EFGH
+```
+
+4. The user can now chat with the bot normally.
+
+Pairing only works in **DMs** — unapproved users in group chats are silently ignored.
+
+### Pairing-only mode
+
+By default, if you don't set `allowFrom`, anyone who isn't approved yet will get a pairing code when they DM the bot. This means you can skip `allowFrom` entirely and manage all access through pairing:
+
+```json
+{
+  "channels": {
+    "telegram": {
+      "enabled": true
+    }
+  }
+}
+```
+
+If you prefer to allow everyone without approval:
+
+```json
+{
+  "channels": {
+    "telegram": {
+      "enabled": true,
+      "allowFrom": ["*"]
+    }
+  }
+}
+```
+
+### Managing access
+
+| Command | What it does |
+|---------|-------------|
+| `/pairing` | Show all pending pairing requests |
+| `/pairing approve <code>` | Approve a request — the sender can now chat |
+| `/pairing deny <code>` | Reject a pending request |
+| `/pairing revoke <user_id>` | Remove a previously approved user from the current channel |
+| `/pairing revoke <channel> <user_id>` | Remove a user from a specific channel |
+
+You can find user IDs in the output of `/pairing list`.
+
+From the terminal:
+
+```bash
+nanobot agent -m "/pairing list"
+nanobot agent -m "/pairing approve ABCD-EFGH"
+```
+
+
 ## Subagent Concurrency
 
 By default, nanobot only allows one spawned subagent at a time. When the limit is